Acceptance, Mindfulness and Vulnerability = Recipe for Optimal Happiness

vulnerable quote

It’s hard to believe I haven’t written in over a year. I still love the idea behind Functionably Happy. Maximize happiness within responsibility, be efficient and productive while connecting with other fellow humans through humor. Anyway…yesterday a dear friend texted “I miss you, I’m struggling, can we have lunch soon!” and after a quick call [...]

Consistence + Friends = Happiness!

Ski trip Parenting Tip: Bring Friends along in challenging situations

I grew up skiing so weekend trips to the mountains were important to me. My daughter was not so inclined to deal with uncomfortable ski boots and cold weather.  There was a lot of whining.  I was frustrated, but not willing to give up the outdoor fresh air, or challenging her to master something difficult [...]

Crying Over Sit-Ups…Literally…

Photo of Parenthood Kristina Hugging Adam

Achieving MORE in the least amount of time is an perpetual concept in the back my mind.  If I don’t adapt to being more creative at fitting in all the fun things I want to do, I’ll feel way less delighted with life.  I know I need to keep my ‘fitness – fun – family [...]

Updated and Continually Re-Balancing!

Daily Deal written by Debbie Markham

Back in October I applied for a 2nd job as a copywriter to supplement my photography income. Updating my resume and submitting several writing samples, coupled with fearing not being experienced or creative enough for the job was really nerve-racking. When I apprehensively tapped the ‘enter’ key on my laptop – sending my cover letter [...]

Reflecting on Mayhem Festival

Mayhem Festival 2011

Last Sunday I attended the Mayhem Festival at Shoreline Amphitheater with 20,000 other people in San Jose.  The headliners were Godsmack, Disturbed, Megadeth & Machine Head who sing powerful angry lyrics about hating this or that, various pains, suffering, unfair life situations…etc.  I hide the fact that I listen to hard rock, unsure if people [...]

Why not assume the best intention from everyone?

Best Intentions Graphic for Blog by Debbie Markham

My brother & I went for a casual bicycle ride the other day around Houston, TX.  At a stop light he decided to burst across the street (defying the “no walk” signal) in front of what I THOUGHT was a quickly approaching vehicle. “That was a daring move bro… what made you dart out,” I [...]

Present moment awareness, acceptance and appreciation

Moonstone Beach Offshore Wind

Look lovingly upon the present, for it holds the only things that are forever true. All healing lies within it. When you have learned to look on everyone with no reference to the past, either his or yours as you perceive it, you will be able to learn from what you see now. The present [...]

Lessons learned from trying to learn from people’s lessons.

Photo by Debbie Markham Dishes in sink

Whenever I speak with older people, I hear the same message “If I could go back in time, I’d clean house less and follow my dreams to be a “fill in the blank”….. and travel more too. Last week, my ex-husband took my kids on a 9 day vacation. That meant I had 9 days [...]

Out of the mouths of babes

Leaf Photo by Debbie Markham

I volunteer at my daughters school on Tuesdays. She was sad the other day following recess when I was there, so I asked what was bothering her. She said “a boy in my class said “Julie’s so stupid” (a black girl) “and I’m really sad, it hurts my feelings a lot because I’m part African.” [...]

2010 Shine Convention Inspires Entrepreneurs

Debbie Markham and Kim Doyal at Shine in Las Vegas

Sharing custody of my kids has shaped my life. I work harder with more focus when they’re with their dad, so that every second they’re with me I truly savor them. When deciding if I wanted to attend “Shine” entrepreneurial conference in Las Vegas this past week, I would really miss my kids for 4 [...]